“You may have heard that ‘if it feels like you have to pee, that means you’re doing it right,'” says Melancon. “But that’s actually not true. If you feel like you have to pee and it’s uncomfortable, it means you weren’t aroused enough before trying to stimulate your G-spot.” In this case, return to step 2 for a hot minute (or ten!) to make the most out of your how-to-make-yourself-squirt journey. (Related: Why Do I Feel Like I Need to Pee During Sex?)
4. Let a squirt sex toy help. The G-spot generally responds well to firm pressure, according to Melancon, so this kind of stimulation can potentially help you squirt. Metal G-spot wands such as the Joy Pure Wand (Buy It, $125, babeland) and Le Wand Bow, (Buy It, $125, lewand) work well. (In fact, I’ve written previously about how much I love the nJoy Pure Wand.) You might also test out one of these sex educator-recommended G-spot vibrators.
5. Touch your clit. Fun fact: You don’t need internal stimulation to make yourself squirt, says Jean, who recommends experimenting with clit suction toys, such as the Womanizer Premium (Buy It, $199, babeland), Satisfyer Pro 2 (Buy It, $50, babeland), or WeVibe Melt (Buy It, $149, babeland). “These toys stimulate the clitoris without touching it directly, which can be uncomfortable for some.
5. Do what feels good! “When it comes time for the actual squirt to happen, you need to do whatever is best for you whether that’s a mouth, toy, hand, penis, or dildo,” says Jean. However, she warns that sometimes, if there’s something (such as said hand or toy) blocking the urethra, it will block the squirt from coming out. At this point she recommends, “Do something you equally enjoy that won’t get in the way of release.”
What If You Didn’t Squirt?
NBD! The goal of exploring how to make yourself squirt and whether or not you can squirt isn’t to squirt. Rather, the goal is to enjoy your body and learn what new kinds of sensations feel good.
So if learning how to squirt is all you hoped it would be: Hooray! You found something new you can enjoy. If urethral sponge stimulation felt good but didn’t make you squirt, that’s great too. Heck, even if internal stimulation didn’t feel all that great for you that’s okay, too – you’re one step closer to knowing exactly what your body likes.
“It’s fun to try new techniques and see what you respond well to,” says Melancon. “But it’s not fun at all to put pressure on yourself to have a particular type of sexual response.”
If you have urinary incontinence, it’s worth getting checked out, but “even if it is pee, my question is: Pee is sterile, so really, who cares?” says Jean. “I say embrace your own bodily fluids and stop sleeping with anyone who questions, interrogates, or makes you feel bad about the sexual fluids coming out of your body.”
5. Do what feels good! “When it comes time for the actual squirt to happen, you need to do whatever is best for you whether that’s a mouth, toy, hand, penis, or dildo,” says Jean. However, she warns that sometimes, if there’s something (such as said hand or toy) blocking the urethra, it will block the squirt from coming out. At this point she recommends, “Do something you equally enjoy that won’t get in the way of release.”
Just Wondering: Is Squirt Pee?
3. Locate your urethral sponge. Use your own clean, well-manicured, lubed-up fingers (or have your partner 
use their fingers) to penetrate your vagina. When you’re aroused, about 2 inches in, along the front wall, you might be able to feel a spongy, quarter-sized zone that’s extra-sensitive to the touch. If you found it and it feels good, Jean recommends using windshield-wiper-like motion along this zone. (Note: Not everyone has a super-sensitive G-spot.)
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